Exactly what is a dominatrix?
The term "Dominatrix"
has caused much confusion in the D/s community. It seems
that one can be too professional but never lifestyle enough. My
definition of the word Domina means lifestyle as well as professional, but a lot of lifestyle Dominas call themselves Mistresses. Our vocabulary to describe such
things is vast, and these words mean different things to everyone who
uses them. A Domina may choose to have a submissive address her as
Mistress , Priestess, Goddess,
my Lady, 'Ms', 'Miss', or some other epitaph during a scene. There
are women who specialize in providing a fantasy service where
domination upon request is provided - a
Dominatrix. There are women who adopt a lifestyle based
on the patterns of their professions and enjoy the scene
enough to take things to the next level and begin training slaves, or they become a scene
professional after amassing personal experience training slaves.
These are the Dominas’. More tends to be expected of the Domina. These women
generally dont accept scripts, and dont perform
domination upon request. It is more difficult to be a Domina, but
more fulfilling in the long run as a lifestyle choice, because a
woman defines her own boundaries and can get very good at doing
specific things, as well as a sense of accomplishment at developing
her own style.
city/country are you located?
Pennsylvania - United States
Can you describe your weirdest
first began I
was very experimental and played with many different types of individuals
before I honed my craft as a Domina.
1). Billy had a
Star Treck Fetish for "The Gamesters of Triskelion" episode. I liked
to whip him to track 22 of the CD, and I often put him in jail and
brought him 'nourishment'. The 'providers' bid on him and I made him
call Me his 'Drill Thrall', and I trained him as My 'thrall'. He had
to do a lot of jumping jacks and situps, and I made him wear a
'training harness' he fashioned out of electrical tape and pantyhose.
I wore a silver outfit (which I liked) and I made him wear a collar
with a shock devise just like Captain Kirk did in the episode.
I even have a special Star Treck outfit that I wore. 2).
Robin had a
comic reenactment fantasy, where he got to play the boy wonder, and
Anastasia and I chased him around the studio and we would catch him
in a net. He said keywords like "gadzukes" a lot, and "holy
domination!". We wore rubber catsuits, and I was usually Cat Woman,
and She was Spider Woman. We would catch robin and tell him he's
'wimpy'. To make it more difficult for him, we would make him wear
heels with his outfit which also included a cape. Sometimes I would
give him 10 minutes to hide, and We would sneak around looking for
him. He usually wound up hog tied at the end.
Has anything /
anybody ever frightened you?
No, I had to
play 'bouncer' though and throw people out a few times. I am a small Woman with a
loud voice. I can be pretty scary!
What do you do in
your spare time / whats fun?
I am a yogini (female yogi). I enjoy
films, travel, and reading.
Describe the best
play partners you ever had in your life. Why?
The play partners I have
are fantastic in their own individual ways. They are
spiritual people, most of whom have faced their issues, and they are
comfortable being around Me. They do not expect Me to be 'on' all the
time, nor do I expect them to be either.
How do you choose your play
How do you know they’re not
weirder than you are?
I don't think it's possible
that they could be weirder than Me. I like being freakier than
they are. I like attracting someone more conservative so I can really rock their
Has a play partner ever turned
What did you do about it?
Playing affects my sex drive in a
very positive and intense way for days afterwards, and my play partners say I
have the same effect upon them!
The emphasis at The Compound is on
do not mix straight sex with the training.
My style of
domination (and filmmaking) is about emotional connection, psychological journeys, bondage, corporeal training, medical procedures, and role play.
While these activities may (or may not) stimulate sexual feelings,
they are not sex.
What turns me on is
the knowledge that Im playing with someone who trusts Me
so much (irregardless of the activities) to push them as far as I
want once we know each other.
A submissive who wants to watch and
hear Me laugh at their predicaments, and know that I am genuinely amused at
their struggles, be they physical or mental and knows that I am enjoying their
journey is my ideal play partner.
Tell us a little
about your background / family.
In childhood I
had sexual feelings towards fabrics, shoes, makeup, and
scenes involving props, highly charged drama, and
My first orientation was towards women. We would
play in groups, doing dress up, spanking and restriction games.
of my childhood games before this had also included bondage,
humiliation, and some form of psychological head space (i.e. entering
Favorites were mean teacher and guard.
Very early on I was
also an exhibitionist.
The world of theater interested me
in my mid teens, and for the next four years I had finally found an outlet for
all of my peculiar energies that could now be considered socially acceptable.
On a personal note - behind closed
doors I began doing ‘scenes’ with the man I was dating.
Later I went on to college where I
studied theater, art and psychology. I eventually finished a degree from CMU in
video production (art).
What was your
funniest Fem Dom experience?
I took a slave to
the park naked under a trench coat. He was wearing combat boots.
He had on vibrating nipple clamps, and an
electric ball shocker. I handcuffed him to the bench, and put the key
in his boot (so he knew it was there). Then I stood 30 feet away. I kept shocking him with an electric ball shocker every time
someone sat next to him. If they questioned him he had to say "i am not
permitted to speak".
I went to pick up a slave at the airport. He wasn't at
the gate as I instructed him, so he was made to go into the bathroom
and change into a 'punishment outfit' (An insane asylum jumpsuit and
underneath that - all of the vibrating/shock equipment). His original clothes went into the suitcase. He was also
made to wear a giant foam yellow cowboy hat that had a huge star on
it. We chided him and called him 'tex'. We made him sit on a bench
outside of a restaurant facing away from Me so I could see everyone point and
laugh at him while I ate dinner. (My photographer captured all of this and it
was obviously way before 911)
I do a lot of
extended and overnight scenes. I also like public spectacle. I used
to be an artist. I am very creative when I
What is your
favorite equipment to use?
I’ve been administering many electrical "treatments". I get a new electrical devise every month or
so. I am primarily a bondage enthusiast so I enjoy restricting the
movements of my play partners and watching them struggle. Electricity
accentuates this. Recent equipment acquisitions include an electric
stretching cross (only one of it's kind in the world), custom cbt chair, and
suspendable leather body bag and everything made by Rimba in the electrical
department. Additionally I have an auto clave and take excellent care of my
equipment. I have the best equipped play space in the tri Stat area hands down -
Do you like
inflicting pain? Why?
A Domina is strong, in
control, and able to inflict "punishments". She is compassionate and truly cares
about the physical and emotional condition of those she plays with. It’s
important to a successful scene that you understand someone's interests and
limits, and then construct the scene along those borders. It's a dance. You must be aware of your
scene partners emotional and physical state, and use those as a guide to
proceed; how far to push, and when to wind down.
What is the most
satisfying thing about your job?
Choosing what I want
to do every day. Waking up with the knowledge that
I have power, and people trust me with their secrets.
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